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Picture of a mom who assaulted her son for being gay

Mom Assaults Son Because She Believes He’s “Gay”

      As everyone’s aware, as a journalist, my signature issue is Gay Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse (IPV/A).  This demoralizing, horrendous–and potentially life-threatening–behavior is heavily stigmatized; thereby, it tends to be grossly underreported.  Therefore, I’ve made it my mission to shine a bright light on IPV/A. 

     And just recently, there’s been an unfortunate “twist” or sorts in this sick, galling saga.  Just days ago, Jacqueline Alexander, a Memphis, Tennessee woman, was charged with beating and punching her own son—all because she believes he’s gay.  The age of Alexander’s son has not yet been revealed. 

     According to WREG, News Channel 3 in Memphis, “Police said she punched her son in the face because she thinks he’s ‘too feminine’ and gay.”  According to the news channel, the child had bruises on his face when police arrived. 

     WREG interviewed Will Batts of the city’s LGBT Community Center.  According to Batts, this type of abuse occurs all too often. 

     “’We certainly have lots of kids and adults who come into the center who talk about being abused or hurt in some way by the people who are supposed to be the ones who care most about them’ he said.” 

     Batts stated that he “’wants to see a change in how people think, an acceptance of all, regardless of their sexual orientation, and to break the barriers of gender stereotypes’.” 

     “’We live with these really strict rules about how people should act or dress or talk or behave, and life is so much more complicated than that’,” he added. 

     Alexander’s bond has been set at $1,000.

Sir Elton John

Sir Elton John Continues to Step Up to the Plate, Batting Home Runs

     While conducting my usual round of research, I uncovered a rather timely article by Darryl Hannah for Inside Philanthropy entitled, “With HIV Infections Rising among Gay Men, This Funder Aims to Sound the Alarm.”  Hannah stated, “Here in the U.S., AIDS can feel like yesterday’s news, and many funders long ago moved on to other issues, including many LGBT funders who’ve been focused on rights issues.”

     The writer continued, “In fact, though, the rate of new HIV infections remains very high, and is rising.  But you’d never know that judging by the complacency of the media or, unfortunately, of many gay men.  Which is why the Elton John AIDS Foundation’s (EJAF) latest grant making includes funding to raise awareness of the persistent threat of HIV.”

     According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, the following dire and gloomy realities are concrete, undeniable evidence that we continue to need EJAF support, clout…and dollars more than ever:

  • In 2010, over 15,000 individuals died of AIDS.
  • Although gay/SGL (same gender loving) men make up just two percent of the U.S. population, they account for 55 percent of all AIDS deaths.
  • This two percent comprise the majority, 56 percent, of people living with HIV.
  • Gay/SGL men account for 66 percent of new HIV infections.
  • 12 to 13 percent of gay/SGL and bisexual men in the U.S. are HIV-positive—including one in five in many major American cities.
  • When you examine HIV/AIDS infections among African-American gay/SGL and bisexual men, the numbers are nearly doubled.

     Hannah wrote, “In short, AIDS is hardly a plague of the past in the gay community.  But it’s seen as such, and the Kaiser study found that few gay men said they discuss HIV with friends and sexual partners and 30 percent had never been tested for HIV.  Only a third knew that HIV infections are rising.  A majority said they were ‘not concerned’ about HIV.

     “It’s frightening findings like these that has the Elton John AIDS Foundation, one of the nation’s largest funders fighting HIV/AIDS, sounding the alarm more loudly and looking for ways to challenge rising complacency about AIDS in the LGBT community.”

     Recently, EJAF formed a partnership with the Human Rights Campaign.  The Foundation awarded this national LGBT organization a $300,000 grant to increase awareness of HIV prevention, treatment, and care among LGBT persons—with a specific focus on young gay/SGL and bisexual men, and transgender women.  The Foundation also hopes to increase awareness and access to care for low-income individuals.

     Additionally, EJAF has just announced $1.5 million in grants, which includes funding to combat stigma confronting those who are poz.

     According to Hannah, “Sir Elton John himself remains as dedicated to this issue as ever.  And deeply worried, too, about issues that he wants more widely shared.  In a recent op-ed for the New York Times, he wrote:

     “’…as engaged as the gay community and civil rights activists have been in the fight for marriage equality, we have lost ground on the fight that so intensely galvanized the gay community to begin with:  HIV and AIDS…we are failing to maintain the kind of basic awareness and education that is needed to save lives’.”    

New Landmark Study Finds IPV/A More Common than Originally Believed

      A critical new study on Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse, or IPV/A (commonly referred to as domestic violence and abuse within the LGBTQ community), shines an even brighter light on this heinous and potentially life-threatening behavior.

    As a journalist, IPV/A is my signature issue.  As well, I conduct national seminars and workshops on this despicable behavior–which can eat away at your very soul.  And, IPV/A is the overarching theme of my new novel, “Nothing Can Tear Us Apart—RAGE!”

     This landmark study, conducted by Chicago’s Northwestern University (NU), concludes that IPV/A occurs at least as much—but possibly more—among same-sex couples as among opposite-sex couples.   According to the nydailynews.com, “The study team can’t say why domestic violence may be more common among same-sex couples, but they suggest it may result from the added stress of being a sexual minority.” 

     Richard Carroll, a psychologist at NU’s Feinberg School of Medicine and senior author of the study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, stated, “’There are vulnerabilities that come with being in a homosexual relationship.  It can be as basic as someone not ready or willing to be open to their family or community that they’re in a homosexual relationship.  The theory is that additional stressors can add to increased strain that leads to increased violence or abuse’.”

     Because IPV/A tends to be heavily stigmatized, it is woefully underreported.  “According to Carroll, among the challenges that sometimes prevent researchers from collecting reliable data on domestic violence among same-sex couples is the partners’ reluctance to bring up the topic out of fear of being outed or blamed.  ‘It’s not as easy for same-sex couples to be open about these things in the first place’, he said.”    

    To formulate the new study, the researchers probed the databases of medical research on the prevalence of intimate partner violence and abuse among same-sex couples.  Based on the findings of four studies that had data on 30,000 participants, the researchers found that between one and three quarters of LGBTQ individuals are victims of IPV/A.  That is at least equal to the quarter of heterosexual women who are victims of domestic violence in their lifetimes.

     Carroll continued, “’In addition to the added stress of being a sexual minority, another contributor to increased risk of domestic violence among same-sex couples could be that same-sex partners are unconsciously acting out an internalized homophobia they developed while being raised in a heterosexual society’.”

     “’The good news is that I think the gay community has begun to address this over the past 10 years, Carroll said.  There are certainly more resources for couples experiencing violence’.” 

     If you or someone you know is experiencing IPV/A, call: the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) or the Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project Hotline (1-800-832-1901).


Domestic Violence hurts everyone

I Love You To Death, Part One

     October is designated as Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  In the LGBTQ community, domestic violence and abuse is generally referred to as Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse, or IPV/A.  

     As a journalist, IPV/A is my signature issue.  Therefore, in recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I’m involved in various activities.  The first was an in-depth discussion of IPV/A on Dishing Tea, the international radio show hosted by Demetris Dennis Taylor.  

     And, the first of my three-part series on IPV/A entitled “I Love You to Death” has just debuted in The WOE Report, my new and exclusive column for Baltimore Gay Life. Visit:  baltimoregaylife.com/i-love- you-to-death-part-one/ 

    Stay tuned to www.wyattevans.com for more news and features on this critical…and potentially life-threatening behavior, which is deeply stigmatized—and tends to be grossly underreported in the LGBTQ community.

The 2014 Center LGBT Writers Foum

Join Me at the 2014 DC Center Black LGBT Writers’ Forum!

For additional info, contact the offices at Nair’Bo Universal on 301-300-9996. Can’t wait to see y’all there!

I’m proud to announce that I’m moderator for this year’s DC Center Black LGBT Writers’ Forum, part of the Outwrite Weekend Book Festival! This event will be held on Saturday, August 2, 1 p.m., at the DC Center in Washington, D.C.

The DC Center Black LGBT Writers’ Forum is a celebration of the dynamic and diverse voices of Black LGBT writers. The attending writers/authors will read from their newest works. As well, and most importantly, they will discuss various topics including: the writer’s process; the essential ingredients for success; and how to succeed in the world of publishing.

The author panel will be comprised of Rashid Darden, Buddah Desmond, Cheryl Head and Michelle Sewell. The DC Center is located within the Reeves Center, at 2000 14th Street, N.W. The event is free and open to the public.

I’ll be signing copies of Nothing Can Tear Us Apart—RAGE! Looking forward to seeing you there! For more information, contact the Nair’Bo Universal offices on 301-300-9996.

Whats Up “Inside Out?”

I wanna thank “Inside Out” and its absolutely MAH-VA-LOUS host, Sheila Alexander-Reid! Earlier this week, I was the special guest for this insanely popular weekly radio show, which airs on WPFW 89.3FM in Washington, D.C. You can also catch Inside Out on line at WPFWFM.ORG.

Inside Out is D.C.’s only LGBT FM radio show. According to Reid, the program “tackles the tough subjects other shows deem too taboo to discuss.”

Sheila and I chatted about a variety of topics, including the annual OutWrite Book Festival, sponsored by the DC Center for the LGBT Community, to be held in Washington from August 1-3, and the Center Black LGBT Writers’ Forum–of which I’m Moderator. This Forum, to be held on Saturday, August 2, 1 p.m., is part of OutWrite.

I also read an excerpt from my new novel, Nothing Can Tear Us Apart—RAGE! You can listen to the audio for the entire “Inside Out” interview below:


Old fashioned Microphone

Adventures On The Air!

On Tuesday, July 29, 2 p.m. EST, I’ll be a guest on the insanely popular weekly radio show, Inside Out, on WPFW 89.3FM in Washington, D.C. You can catch Inside Out on line at WPFWFM.ORG.

Hosted by Sheila Alexander-Reid, Inside Out is D.C.’s only LGBT FM radio show. According to Reid, the program “tackles the tough subjects other shows deem too taboo to discuss.”

I’ll discuss the annual OutWrite Book Festival, sponsored by the DC Center For The LGBT Community, held in Washington the weekend of August 1-3. In turn, OutWrite is sponsoring the Center Black LGBT Writers’ Forum, of which I’m moderator. This Forum will be held on Saturday, August 2, 1 p.m.

And, I’ll chat about the writer’s process. As well, I’ll read excerpts from my new novel, Nothing Can Tear Us Apart—RAGE!

Don’t miss Inside Out on the 29th, at 2 p.m.! It’s gonna be lively, informative and entertaining radio!

The 2014 Center LGBT Writers Foum


Y’all, on Saturday, June 14, I’ll be at the BALTIMORE Q FEST, performing selections from my new novel, NOTHING CAN TEAR US APART—RAGE! B’More Q Fest is Maryland’s multi-venued large scale LGBT premiere film and media event. Lemme give a very special Shout Out to MR. CHRIS LINES, the driving force behind this much-anticipated celebration!

What makes B’More Q Fest so special for me is that I’ll be PERFORMING—not simply reading—excerpts from NOTHING CAN TEAR US APART—RAGE!

And guess what? I’m the ONLY author performing at this film and media event! I’m truly honored.

For more info on Baltimore Q Fest, visit www.bmorequeer.org. Also, you can Facebook, email (nairbouniversal@aol.com), or hit me up at the Nair’BoUniversal offices at 301-300-9996.

I’ll be signing copies of RAGE! at B’More Q Fest. See ya there!