Tag Archives: October


Ready or Not…”Hear” I Come!

     Breaking News:  the relaunch of my radio show hits the airwaves this OCTOBER! 

     Like WYATT’S MAN CAVE (WMC), the previous incarnation, the new program explores and dissects controversial issues—including relationship and wellness—that impact the LGBTQ Community and its allies.  As well, diverse, distinguished, and compelling guests weigh in.    

     In the meantime, let’s do a rewind of the debut eppy of WMC!  The special guest is MR. R  L  NORMAN, arguably the quintessential Renaissance man:  he’s an entrepreneur, videographer, performer, columnist, internet host, and author of the popular series of novels entitled, Honey Let Me Tell You.    

     R L and I chew the fat and the shoot da s**t about his journey as a talent, keepin’ the FI-YAH burnin’ hawt in yo’ relationship…and even Tyler Perry’s alleged private island!  Here’s the link:  https://www.mixcloud.com/LesbeRealRadioTalk/put-the-fi-yah-back-into-your-relationship-wyatts-man-cave/

     (To note:  R L’s brand-spankin’ new tome, Honey, I Can’t Stand the Rain, drops this autumn!  I’ll keep you apprised.)

     Uncut & Uncensored.  Cutting-edge.  Engaging.  Insightful.  A helping of Raw Wit!  Probing.  Explosive!  That’s what my new show is all about.  And over the next weeks, I’ll be sharing more specifics, including the show’s title—which you’ll need, right?

     Ohhhhhh, hell yeah…OCTOBER is the month, Y’all!

The IPV/A Chronicles, Part Six: October is DVAM!

 I’ve made it my ongoing–and fervent–mission to continue to shine a bright light on a certain demoralizing, insidious and horrific cycle of behavior that continues to be a growing concern within the LGBTQ Community.  This is Part Six of the ongoing series that will address this potentially life-threatening cycle of abuse. 

      It’s purple month!    

     Now, you may ask: “What’s that?”  

     Allow me to explain.  You see, we wear purple—actually, a purple ribbon—as a symbol used to honor victims and survivors of domestic violence/abuse (DVA), which can include sexual violence. In the LGBTQ community, DVA is referred to as Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse (IPV/A).  October has been designated as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

     Statistics show that IPV/A occurs with similar frequency as in heterosexual relationships.    Additionally, new research suggests that a greater percentage of LGBTQ individuals are living in fear of an abusive partner than previously thought.  And each year, between 50,000-100,000 lesbians (or more) and as many as 500,000 (or more) gay men are battered, and about one in four LGBTQ relationships/partnerships are abusive in some way.  

     Sexual violence, stalking, and intimate partner violence and abuse are growing problems.  What makes matters worse:  incidences of IPV/A often are underreported–particularly amongst same-sex couples 

     Let’s drill down even further.  In the U.S., about 1 in 3 women and nearly 1 in 4 men experience some form of intimate partner sexual violence, intimate partner physical violence, and/or intimate partner stalking during their lifetime. According to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP), nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. For one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men experience severe physical intimate partner violence in their lifetime. 

     For more data and statistics that illustrate the full picture of Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse, visit:  https://wyattevans.com/the-ipva-chronicles-part-three/


     In recognition of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I want to share with you how this observance came to be–and how it has grown.  

    National Domestic Violence Awareness Month evolved from the first Day of Unity, which was established by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence in October 1981.  The intent was to connect battered women advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children.  

     Soon, when a range of activities was conducted at the local, state and national levels, the Day of Unity became a special week.  These activities were as varied and diverse as the program sponsors–but had common themes:  mourning those who had died because of domestic violence, celebrating those who had survived, and connecting those who worked to end violence and abuse. 

     Then in October 1987, the inaugural Domestic Violence Awareness Month was observed.  In that same year, the first national toll-free hotline was initiated.  And in 1989, the U. S. Congress passed Public Law 101-112, designating October of that year as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  

     In October 1994, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, in conjunction with Ms. Magazine, created the “Remember My Name” project, a national registry to increase public awareness of deaths due to domestic violence and abuse.  And on October 11, 2003, the U.S. Postal Service issued their “Stop Family Violence” stamp.  A young girl, who expressed her sadness about domestic violence, created the design of this first-class stamp.  Profits from the sale of the stamp were transferred to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services to assist domestic violence programs. 

INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE man holding bat to another man

     Until We Return…       

     As stated earlier, I’ve made it my ongoing–and fervent–mission to continue to shine a bright light on IPV/Aa demoralizing, horrific–and potentially life-threatening cycle of behavior.  

    We Must RISE UP…And Tell! Someone.  Anyone Who Will Listen. We must make our “Great Escape.” 

     And, always remember:  the most powerful weapon the abuser has in his/her arsenal is…SILENCE.  



     If you or someone you know is experiencing IPV/A, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) or the Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project Hotline (1-800-832-1901).  

     I have a special IPV/A section right here at Wyattevans.com that includes resources to assist victims.  Visit:  https://wyattevans.com/lgbtq-domestic-violenceabuse-making-your-great-escape/ 

     The time is NOW to break the cycle!

October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month

     It’s official!  It’s purple month.
     Now, you may ask: “’ Purple month’?  What the heck are ya talkin’ about?” 
    Well, let me to explain.  You see, we wear purple—actually, a purple ribbon—as a symbol used to honor victims and survivors of domestic and sexual violence/abuse, which is generally referred to as Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse (IPV/A) in the LGBTQ community.  And, October has been designated as national Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM).
     During DVAM, survivors of abuse, their loved ones, victim advocates, allied professionals, and the community come together to mourn the lives lost to domestic violence and Intimate Partner Violence/Abuse.  Also, the progress that has been made to end this epidemic is acknowledged and celebrated.  And so importantly, DVAM provides a golden opportunity to connect with others working to create change.
     In support of this critical awareness initiative, “The IPV/A Chronicles” will feature articles throughout the month of October.  It’s my continuing effort to shine a bright light on this demoralizing and potentially life-threatening cycle of abusive behavior.  Intimate Partner Violence/Domestic Violence is a grave and pressing societal ill that can—and must be—eradicated.
     So, stay tuned right here at Wyattevans.com!  ‘Cause it’s all about The Purple.